Verbal Abuse Recovery
This is a story from one of our global readers: Hi, I want to know how many times to your abuser need to abuse you to be classified as an abuser? I have been married 10 years, going through a divorce, but we have been together 15 years. The first 2 years in our relationship... Continue Reading →
One thing I have struggled with ongoing is PTSD & Panic/Anxiety attacks. These symptoms were really bad when I was still married to the abuser, but I didn't know I was having symptoms at the time. Even after I left the abuser and the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) got really bad it still took... Continue Reading →
One of my greatest fears is if my daughter picks someone like her dad who is abusive. My grandmother and mother picked husbands exhibiting abusive behavior very similar to my ex-husband. My parents divorced when I was about three years old. My father began using me to abuse my mother when I was four or five and... Continue Reading →
First, let me begin by saying that I am not discounting physical abuse at all. If someone is physically abusive it highly unlikely they are not emotionally & verbally abusive too. If someone feels it is their right to physically abuse their partner or child they must be manipulative, controlling and use some methods of... Continue Reading →
Don't Argue With An Abusive Ex Last week I sent my abusive ex-husband an email basically stating that I had problems with my father for years for the same stuff he is doing to our daughter. In my email I stated how similar my father and ex-husband are. I also said I believed it was... Continue Reading →
One thing I struggle with sometimes is getting over the resentment of my abusive ex-husband. Most of the time I do not hate him or give him much thought, unless he is messing with my daughter and it angers me all over again. Then I feel angry for all the hell he has put me... Continue Reading →
When I first got divorced my abusive ex-husband spent so much time harassing me it was a miserable experience. Here I was trying to go with my life, raise my daughter, run my business and his constant harassment made that really hard to do. It did not help that I was always afraid of what... Continue Reading →
I was a victim of domestic abuse 'but he never hit me'. I ran across this statement today and it impossible for me to count how many times I have said that very statement. When I was married I really was not aware my marriage was one of control, manipulation, power and domination. The household... Continue Reading →
When I was first divorced from my abusive ex-husband I was extremely afraid of him. He made many threats and acted on only a few. In my situation my ex-husband is really nothing but a bully, all bark and no bite. Warning: I will say if you are receiving threats please do not dismiss them as... Continue Reading →
My daughter is 13 right now and it amazes me of how many years my abusive ex-husband has been trying to use her as a pawn, weapon or any way to hurt me. I came across an email I sent to my attorney 7 years ago regarding a bizarre reaction my 6 year old had... Continue Reading →
We were driving back from an appointment today and my daughter mentioned her dad did not like it when her step-dad (let's call him Chris) called her names (like Turd, Buttlips). I asked her, "How would he know if Chris said something like that?" She said she did not know. I asked, "Does Chris ever... Continue Reading →
When I first began receiving emails from my abusive ex-husband that were full of ranting & raving, opinions and comments that were meant to make me look bad. There was a part of me that felt if I did not respond to his untrue comment then that was admitting it was true. Learning to disconnect... Continue Reading →
You may find this shocking to believe that I once use to question if my ex-husband was poisoning me. I actually thought it was pretty crazy to think such a thing. I certainly did not think a normal person would even consider such a thing. I cannot tell you how many doctors I visited during those years... Continue Reading →
Journal Email Entries - 12/3/2006 Our daughter came home from her dad's house then she and I went to Walmart to buy her a desk. When we got home I told her to take a bath. She was crying and calling for me. She said her vagina hurt. I asked her what it felt like. ... Continue Reading →
Abuse and Co-Parenting - Using Our Daughter as the Pawn for Abusive Games My abusive ex-husband is still playing games and is using our daughter as his pawn. It is so unfair and I know any attempt I make to reason with him will only make things worse, not better. In fact, if I let... Continue Reading →
The following entry was written after I had left the abusive alcoholic and drove to my mother's house in another state. Leaving him was really scary and he wanted me to feel that way. In the middle of December I had contacted an attorney, filed for divorce and then packed up my daughter and myself... Continue Reading →
I thought about including my actual journal entries that I had written while still married to the abuser. When I was in the middle I did not truly understand what I was going through. Although at that time my eyes were beginning to open to what the real problem was. I hope this helps anyone... Continue Reading →
Putting Our Daughter in the Middle Okay, so the manipulation tactics have continued no matter what the circumstances are. When we first got divorced he would attempt to contact me and swear he had changed his ways. He would make sure to run into my friends so he could attempt to earn allies and make... Continue Reading →
It seems we are in a time where some abusive bosses can take advantage of the down economy to justify their abusive behaviors. There are less jobs available right now which could make an employee endure a situation they might not otherwise tolerate. Accepting unacceptable behavior is more likely when your personal finances are at... Continue Reading →
Tips to Responding to Abusive Emails: The nice thing about emails is you have a record on file with dates. You do not have to respond to the abusive email right away. It is easier to stay unemotional via email than it is over the phone or in person. My abusive ex-husband use to bait... Continue Reading →
Signs there is a Marriage Problems There were so many things about my ex-husband I should have caught while we were dating. The saying "Love is Blind," I think I loved him in my dysfunctional way. I was truly willing to overlook things that a normal person would not have. You know something is wrong... Continue Reading →
