Verbal Abuse Recovery
Last week, my daughter told me she wants to come by on Sunday to see me for Mother's Day, but she is not allowed to drive his car to the city where I live again. It is extremely frustrating to me that we are still having these types of conversations when our daughter is 20 years old. This is crazy controlling and she is still not ready or able to challenge him yet.
One of the biggest lessons I learned throughout this entire experience is it is impossible to co-parent with a narcissist or abusive person. Whether you Ex is a woman or man, if they are a narcissist, there is no such thing as cooperation. It frustrates me that he gets as much attention as he does.... Continue Reading →
Yesterday, I posted an email string between my ex-husband, his wife, and myself. The last email I received was a personal attack by my ex-husband. Although I did not respond to his email, his comments have been ringing in my head for the past 24 hours. Obviously, this is the narcissist's goal, keeping you off-balanced...... Continue Reading →
During the holidays is when I realize that this is a sad time and perhaps I feel a little blue. Navigating through the effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is not easy and there doesn't seem to be a right answer other than prayers and time. Today, I read about a new term called Hostile Aggressive... Continue Reading →
My daughter visited me this weekend and things didn't go as I expected they would. Perhaps this was too soon for her to come home to visit. Right now, my daughter sees me as the bad guy and she is especially mad at my husband. Plus, we had to deal with three months of hateful... Continue Reading →
It is easy to excuse games the Narcissist plays as potential 'oversights', however past behavior really predicts present and future behavior. Time to rise above the games. Time to think 'game over'. So, it has been one week since my daughter left to live with her father. This week has been full of sadness, relief,... Continue Reading →
What became increasingly frustrating about this entire situation with my daughter was that the courts do not consider Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) a real thing. The attorneys said that although they all know it does exist, they are not allowed to talk about it in the courts. She said they will often use code words... Continue Reading →
Today, I feel rather sad and it is difficult to write when I feel sad. Yesterday, I watched my seventeen year old get into the car with my narcissist ex-husband to go live with him. Everything about this truly breaks my heart. There is a new pain I feel that is so deep it is... Continue Reading →
Today, I had to make a super difficult decision. It is likely I am going to have to let my daughter go live with my abusive ex-husband and his wife. I do not believe this is the best decisions for her, but she will just resent me if she stays, and will likely move in... Continue Reading →
My ex-husband and his wife have managed to turn our daughter against us, especially me. It is hard to say what was the tipping point exactly, but we think it was when she was busted for smoking pot and her father’s promise of an easy life with him. My ex-husband and his wife are in constant... Continue Reading →
It is difficult to deal with a manipulative abusive ex-husband. Co-parenting with my abusive ex-husband has been more than a little difficult. In fact, it has been downright painful at times. Time to make smarter choices when dealing with my teenager. There are times I have felt hopeless, like this is some sort of game... Continue Reading →
I think one of the greatest issues I have had to overcome is healing from all the invisible wounds. The scars left from the verbal and emotional abuse seem like they often ran deep into my core. My first emotional abuser was not my ex-husband, he was my father. So this is where the... Continue Reading →
Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
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