Verbal Abuse Recovery
There are many times I wonder if my abusive ex-husband is nicer to his new wife than he was to me. My Abusive Ex-Husband's Wife My ex-husband's wife tells my daughter I am crazy. No doubt these are things my ex-husband as told her about me that she is repeating. I am unable to get... Continue Reading →
One of my biggest concerns is my daughter will grow up and marry an abuser herself. All I can really do is teach her the facts and perhaps inform her of the warning signs. After all there were early warning signs in our relationship, when we were dating, which I missed or chose to ignore. ... Continue Reading →
You can read the first posts I made from March & April 2003 on this page Abusive Experience - Journal Entries 1. I had many sporadic entries throughout the last few years of our marriage. I think I was always worried he would read the journal entries. These journal entries were made after I had figured out he had a problem... Continue Reading →
Well, many things have transpired recently with my father. It turns out my father was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder many years ago. In previous posts, Abusive Email Traps, I had listed some of the bizarre interactions I had with my father and how much they reminded me of my abusive ex-husband's behavior. When I was... Continue Reading →
So I am having problems with my father again after I made the decision to call him and he blasted me. You can read one of the first abusive emails from my father. Then good God, okay so he called me again and I pick up the phone. What is wrong with me? Now... Continue Reading →
Okay, so after all the problems I had with my father I decided to give him a call this morning. In this past post, Abusive and Controlling Email Trap, I explained how my father blew up at me because he believed I was writing a divorce column and advising women to get divorced. Well as... Continue Reading →
For anyone reading my posts, I apologize if it seems like I am always jumping around. I just write my posts depending on where my memories lead me. One of the things I thought about the other day is how long I stayed with my abusive ex-husband because of fear. Fear really kept me paralyzed... Continue Reading →
I had a conversation with a family member the other day that was very angry about all the talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with military individuals. He referred to it as a, "Post Traumatic Stupid Disorder." I felt rather offended by his statement because his blanket statement could also have included me. I... Continue Reading →
During my abuse recovery, I have questioned if I was possibly addicted to the emotional and physiological abuse that I endured daily for so many years. There are times when I question if I will ever truly be over the abuse. There are always things that triggers my memory of my past life. They do... Continue Reading →
Looking back now, I cannot remember a single Holiday that passed by without excessive arguments with my ex-husband. I use to think he was purposely trying to make the holiday unpleasant for us. I remember trying to create the holiday mood by playing Bing Crosby Christmas, decorating the tree, hanging the stockings and such. What I most... Continue Reading →
One thing to keep in mind is the Abusive Boss does not stop being abusive after you are no longer available to him. They continue to abuse other people around them. Most abusers seem to be pretty careful to not do anything that will get them caught. They seem to be careful to avoid any... Continue Reading →
Okay, so last night my dream included my manipulative abusive Ex-boss. It is very irritating to end relationships with people only to have them visit you in your dreams. In my dream I remember being upset and my boss was there. Also there was some other guy playing football (I don't watch football?) and was... Continue Reading →
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
There were many days when my ex-husband use to come home really late & after he had been out drinking. I would be sleeping in our master bedroom, with the door locked and he would continue to knock on the door until I would open it. He would want sex, I would tell him no,... Continue Reading →
My unresolved feelings from Past Memories & Conversations can continue to trigger hurt, anger, pain and fear in me. It is impossible to change the past that contributed to the emotional trauma. Steps have already been taken to remove myself from these verbal abusers. Now, steps need to be taken to change these negative memories... Continue Reading →
Unfortunately, my memories do not stop just because I decided to end the relationship with the abuser. In fact, sometimes these memories play on and on like a broken record in my head. My ex-husband was the worst relationship I ever had by far in my life. So oftentimes he plagues my mind. Of course,... Continue Reading →
My father and I recently had an argument about whether a women should or should not get divorced from a person who is abusive. The story is posted under Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. I had stated my personal belief that a women and her children (should she have any) should leave... Continue Reading →
So as I discussed in my previous emails regarding my father's email with his topic of 'You, you you... but this is about God' and how familiar this was sounding to emails from my ex-husband. One of the emails I received years ago were regarding sending our daughter to therapy because she was having tantrums,... Continue Reading →
Anyone reading this email can catch the first half by reading the post from yesterday titled Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. Okay, so I decided this email was worth posting because this is simply an abusive email by someone I know, in this case my father. I am also able to recognize the... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our readers: Hello, I'm a young 15 year old girl who has had a crazy life. Some really bad things have happened as in good. I've been abused in many ways. I've been raped since I was a little girl for a couple of years from 3 boys. I've been molested from... Continue Reading →
Trying to Rationalize the Irrational Well, I just had the strangest argument with my father yesterday over the phone. I mentioned this blog and that I was sharing my personal experiences on this blog. Somehow the conversation led to my stating I believed a women in a physically abusive relationship should take herself and her children, should... Continue Reading →
