Verbal Abuse Recovery
Now that I know what characteristics are in abusive people it is amazing how easy they are to spot. Sometimes it is almost disturbing how similar they behave. As Lundy Bandcroft mentioned in his book, "It is almost like they graduated from the same school of abuse." We have a house that really couldn't sell... Continue Reading →
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
There are sometimes warning signs that tell you something is wrong, but you are unable to do anything about it. There are also gut instincts that also tell you something is not right and you are unable to find any logical explanation. There were a lot of strange things going on about 4 years ago with... Continue Reading →
What are the Odds? According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center, 25% of women will have experienced domestic abuse in their lifetime. Keeping Secrets That is very disturbing fact, but it is one that cannot be ignored. In a way by my posting this anonymously I feel like I am keeping the secret rather than... Continue Reading →
Dealing with a Controlling Ex It is so difficult at times to not feel stressed when situations arise where I have to deal with my abusive ex-husband. When you have to co-parent a child with an abusive man you do have to deal with them to some extent while you raise the child. If fact... Continue Reading →
Okay so I have been reading a very captivating book called 'Why Does He Do That' written by Lundy Bancroft. It is not the most current book, but I will say it is extremely relevant. This book is very well written as it gets inside the minds of these abusive men. At many times throughout... Continue Reading →
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →
It is rather amazing how long it takes to deal with the emotional scars of a verbally abusive relationship. I am married to a really great man now and it can really affect our relationship today. There are times when a situation will trigger a memory and it sort of brings me back to the... Continue Reading →
I tell you I felt some stress yesterday and a little bit today. I received the letter of complaint to the school from the attorney and it is amazing. He actually describes exactly my complaint that the school should follow their policies first and foremost. He also went on to say that the school has... Continue Reading →
I have not allowed all this insanity to control my weekend or prevent me from enjoying it. My daughter will be home in a while and we will have the have the discussion about her not coming by to pick things up when we are not home. I sort of feel if I were dealing... Continue Reading →
I received a rather interesting letter from my daughter's school today regarding the complaints I had made. School Web of Deception The letter basically says that since my daughter is no longer a student their district they cannot hear any formal complaints. They have closed all complaints regarding my daughter. They CCd all the people... Continue Reading →
There are so many resources and books that can help you discover if you are in a domestic abuse relationship. I use to believe it was not abuse because he did not hit me. The truth is, he never had to, the verbal abuse was giving me internal scars. This website, Warning Signs of Abusive... Continue Reading →
This post is a continuation from the post The Drama Continues and My Daughter Saw It regarding the school situation and the multiple violations of my rights as a parent and their school policies. Obviously this started by my abusive ex-husband's wife transferring to my daughters school last year. I work so hard to try to... Continue Reading →
After moving into this apartment I eventually grew tired of the controlling behavior. He would also become extremely belligerent when he drank. I broke up with him and moved out into my own apartment and felt very peaceful. The problem was I was lonely... at that time I was not comfortable being alone. After dating... Continue Reading →
Last night I had a very strange dream about my ex-husband. I have these dreams from time to time. In the dream he is trying to get along with me. In my dream I am unable to communicate with him even in that state. It is nearly impossible to communicate with an abuser. I am... Continue Reading →
One of the greatest challenges I have is trying to keep my daughter out of the middle of this unhealthy behavior. I was doing a better job with it before the school staff came into the mix. Allowing my daughter to view her father through her own eyes and not mine. I know she really has to develop... Continue Reading →
First I want to say I was listing to Joyce Meyer (she was a victim of abuse) this morning and her message was simple. It said it was not our circumstances that cause our grief, but our reactions to the circumstances. I absolutely agree. No matter what my ex-husband puts on me I need to... Continue Reading →
We spent about 5 years dating in our very unhealthy relationship. He really liked to drink a lot and he would have bartender friends in every bar and restaurant we went to. They would give him double shot drinks and he would tip them well. If that wasn't a sign of alcoholism I do not... Continue Reading →
Regaining my personal power and strength sometimes requires me to fall down. I have to use the power of positive thinking to get to realizing I am not still in it and I will not allow this to control my life. I will enjoy my life whether my abuser is controlling or not. I will... Continue Reading →
Today was a pretty relaxing day, after releasing my emotions about all these things I have no control over, and turning them over I feel a huge weight off my shoulders. I had a enjoyable day at work. After school my daughter called me and I could tell right away something happened at school by... Continue Reading →
So I had a meeting with the principal of my daughter's school yesterday. We spoke our issues with the school and then the day kind of went from good to bad pretty quickly. In the late afternoon I was giving my daughter a spelling test and I am not sure what triggered her memory. So instead of having... Continue Reading →
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