Verbal Abuse Recovery
On so many levels, it seems like my ex is still controlling me. It shouldn't feel this way, but it does. Our daughter is nearly twenty years old and still cannot come visit me. In order for me to see my daughter, I always have to go see her. Her father has a rule that she cannot come to the city where I live.
So, I met with my daughter on Friday for my birthday. Our conversation was good and she did discuss her plans on moving out next year, but did not discuss the reasons why. Since I do have a bit of information, I was able to ask her questions about her plans. I asked if she... Continue Reading →
Last week, I stopped by to visit a friend who used to live down the street from my old house. She said that my daughter has been hanging out with her daughter. My friend was conflicted about discussing this information with me, but she felt as a mother, I should know. Apparently, something happened between... Continue Reading →
So, it has been nearly two years since my daughter left our house to go live with her father. Looking back, I have definitely made progress. There have been a few changes. One, my daughter is no longer so angry as she was when she initially left. Also, the fact that time has a way... Continue Reading →
There did seem to be a downhill battle with my daughter after divorcing a narcissist/abusive ex. You can really see the spiral downhill and how we were unable to turn it around in this story. Our daughter has become extremely irrational and unreasonable to converse with. Ugh! I did exactly what I said I shouldn’t... Continue Reading →
Lately, I have noticed I have received less emails from my abusive ex-husband... thankfully. However, more emails have been coming from his wife. Makes me feel he is sending his minion to do his dirty work. This past week, I was out of town traveling for work and I received this email from his wife.... Continue Reading →
One of the biggest lessons I learned throughout this entire experience is it is impossible to co-parent with a narcissist or abusive person. Whether you Ex is a woman or man, if they are a narcissist, there is no such thing as cooperation. It frustrates me that he gets as much attention as he does.... Continue Reading →
Yesterday, I posted an email string between my ex-husband, his wife, and myself. The last email I received was a personal attack by my ex-husband. Although I did not respond to his email, his comments have been ringing in my head for the past 24 hours. Obviously, this is the narcissist's goal, keeping you off-balanced...... Continue Reading →
It has been two months since my last blog entry. Over the past few months I have gone through several stages of grief. Stages of Grief It began with fear and trying to decide what to do about the situation. Then it evolved into overwhelming sadness with frequent bouts of crying. Sometimes I felt extremely... Continue Reading →
It has been a few weeks since the last time I wrote a post. Lately, I have had a difficult time putting my thoughts together. My emotions are quite overwhelming at this time, too much has happened in the past few months. I guess that is why it is so difficult to write my thoughts.... Continue Reading →
Today, I feel rather sad and it is difficult to write when I feel sad. Yesterday, I watched my seventeen year old get into the car with my narcissist ex-husband to go live with him. Everything about this truly breaks my heart. There is a new pain I feel that is so deep it is... Continue Reading →
So today, I was in the car and Johnny Cash song Hurt came on the radio. This song was originally written and sung by Nine Inch Nails. When I was younger, I listened to that album over an over, and I must have heard this song 100 times over the years and never paid too... Continue Reading →
This week, I feel like I am all over the place with my emotions. My mind is going through the past again as this situation with my daughter and ex-husband has made all those memories resurface. Although, it is a little better than before, I used to feel pretty hopeless at times. Not suicidal, but... Continue Reading →
This has been a rather challenging week with my daughter. I feel pretty resentful towards her father for his response or lack of response to this situation. They say that resentment is like swallowing poison, but hoping someone else will die. This week: Received some messages that mentioned 'bud and rillos', red flag Daughter posted... Continue Reading →
My daughter has admitted that her father continues to say horrible things about me, and she just tunes him out. However, having seen her self-inflicted cuts on the side of her thigh/hip and it does not appear she has tuned it out. How much emotional scarring has this abusive relationship caused in my daughter after... Continue Reading →
So a lot has happened this week. All of this was crazy and unexpected to say the least. Starting on Tuesday, the school counselor called to inform me that she had received an anonymous tip that my daughter was cutting. My daughter assured the school counselor and me that she was not cutting. I even... Continue Reading →
Yesterday, I found out my daughter has been cutting herself. When I saw her, wounds I just covered my face with my hands and my eyes immediately began to tear up. As quickly as my tears began to flow, I somehow managed to stop and just talk to her. I just wanted to be supportive... Continue Reading →
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