Verbal Abuse Recovery
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
There were many days when my ex-husband use to come home really late & after he had been out drinking. I would be sleeping in our master bedroom, with the door locked and he would continue to knock on the door until I would open it. He would want sex, I would tell him no,... Continue Reading →
My unresolved feelings from Past Memories & Conversations can continue to trigger hurt, anger, pain and fear in me. It is impossible to change the past that contributed to the emotional trauma. Steps have already been taken to remove myself from these verbal abusers. Now, steps need to be taken to change these negative memories... Continue Reading →
Unfortunately, my memories do not stop just because I decided to end the relationship with the abuser. In fact, sometimes these memories play on and on like a broken record in my head. My ex-husband was the worst relationship I ever had by far in my life. So oftentimes he plagues my mind. Of course,... Continue Reading →
My father and I recently had an argument about whether a women should or should not get divorced from a person who is abusive. The story is posted under Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. I had stated my personal belief that a women and her children (should she have any) should leave... Continue Reading →
So as I discussed in my previous emails regarding my father's email with his topic of 'You, you you... but this is about God' and how familiar this was sounding to emails from my ex-husband. One of the emails I received years ago were regarding sending our daughter to therapy because she was having tantrums,... Continue Reading →
Anyone reading this email can catch the first half by reading the post from yesterday titled Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. Okay, so I decided this email was worth posting because this is simply an abusive email by someone I know, in this case my father. I am also able to recognize the... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our readers: Hello, I'm a young 15 year old girl who has had a crazy life. Some really bad things have happened as in good. I've been abused in many ways. I've been raped since I was a little girl for a couple of years from 3 boys. I've been molested from... Continue Reading →
Trying to Rationalize the Irrational Well, I just had the strangest argument with my father yesterday over the phone. I mentioned this blog and that I was sharing my personal experiences on this blog. Somehow the conversation led to my stating I believed a women in a physically abusive relationship should take herself and her children, should... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our global readers: Hi, I want to know how many times to your abuser need to abuse you to be classified as an abuser? I have been married 10 years, going through a divorce, but we have been together 15 years. The first 2 years in our relationship... Continue Reading →
One thing I have struggled with ongoing is PTSD & Panic/Anxiety attacks. These symptoms were really bad when I was still married to the abuser, but I didn't know I was having symptoms at the time. Even after I left the abuser and the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) got really bad it still took... Continue Reading →
One of my greatest fears is if my daughter picks someone like her dad who is abusive. My grandmother and mother picked husbands exhibiting abusive behavior very similar to my ex-husband. My parents divorced when I was about three years old. My father began using me to abuse my mother when I was four or five and... Continue Reading →
First, let me begin by saying that I am not discounting physical abuse at all. If someone is physically abusive it highly unlikely they are not emotionally & verbally abusive too. If someone feels it is their right to physically abuse their partner or child they must be manipulative, controlling and use some methods of... Continue Reading →
Don't Argue With An Abusive Ex Last week I sent my abusive ex-husband an email basically stating that I had problems with my father for years for the same stuff he is doing to our daughter. In my email I stated how similar my father and ex-husband are. I also said I believed it was... Continue Reading →
One thing I struggle with sometimes is getting over the resentment of my abusive ex-husband. Most of the time I do not hate him or give him much thought, unless he is messing with my daughter and it angers me all over again. Then I feel angry for all the hell he has put me... Continue Reading →
When I first got divorced my abusive ex-husband spent so much time harassing me it was a miserable experience. Here I was trying to go with my life, raise my daughter, run my business and his constant harassment made that really hard to do. It did not help that I was always afraid of what... Continue Reading →
I was a victim of domestic abuse 'but he never hit me'. I ran across this statement today and it impossible for me to count how many times I have said that very statement. When I was married I really was not aware my marriage was one of control, manipulation, power and domination. The household... Continue Reading →
When I was first divorced from my abusive ex-husband I was extremely afraid of him. He made many threats and acted on only a few. In my situation my ex-husband is really nothing but a bully, all bark and no bite. Warning: I will say if you are receiving threats please do not dismiss them as... Continue Reading →
My daughter is 13 right now and it amazes me of how many years my abusive ex-husband has been trying to use her as a pawn, weapon or any way to hurt me. I came across an email I sent to my attorney 7 years ago regarding a bizarre reaction my 6 year old had... Continue Reading →
We were driving back from an appointment today and my daughter mentioned her dad did not like it when her step-dad (let's call him Chris) called her names (like Turd, Buttlips). I asked her, "How would he know if Chris said something like that?" She said she did not know. I asked, "Does Chris ever... Continue Reading →
When I first began receiving emails from my abusive ex-husband that were full of ranting & raving, opinions and comments that were meant to make me look bad. There was a part of me that felt if I did not respond to his untrue comment then that was admitting it was true. Learning to disconnect... Continue Reading →
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