Steps to Getting Over Emotional Abuse

My unresolved feelings from Past Memories & Conversations can continue to trigger hurt, anger, pain and fear in me.  It is impossible to change the past that contributed to the emotional trauma.  Steps have already been taken to remove myself from these verbal abusers.  Now, steps need to be taken to change these negative memories into positive ones.

1. Leave Abusive Environment
2. Create Safe Environment
3. Create Boundaries
4. Find a Healthy Outlet
5. Create New Positive Experiences
6. Focus on New Positive Memories
7. Repeat Step 5 & 6

I have left the abuser and am no longer exposed to the daily abuse.  I am living in an environment where I feel safe and my abuser does not have access.  I have created boundaries to limit contact with my abusive ex-husband and stopped all contact with abusive ex-boss.  I have created this blog as an outlet to work through my unresolved feelings when I feel them.  Now I need to focus on the continuously creating new positive experiences.  These new positive experiences will continue to expand the positive memories I feel.  When these abusive memories come over me I need to remember I am safe, I have healthy outlets (journal, friends & professionals), and then I need to continue to expand positive memories.  Replace bad thoughts with the positive thoughts and memories.

Sources:

• Signs of Emotional Abuse