Verbal Abuse Recovery
Yesterday, I found out my daughter has been cutting herself. When I saw her, wounds I just covered my face with my hands and my eyes immediately began to tear up. As quickly as my tears began to flow, I somehow managed to stop and just talk to her. I just wanted to be supportive... Continue Reading →
This is a story of domestic abuse and how it often runs in families. The cycle of abuse is a tough one to break unless you begin to understand the facts about abuse. Domestic abuse has more than one face and can affect you in many ways, including unknowingly teaching your children, by example, to... Continue Reading →
Our daughter is now sixteen years old, and she now has a best friend and to my dismay a boyfriend. Due to the abusive nature of my relationship with my ex-husband I have really to talk to him a little as possible. I have found this is a healthier approach for everyone, especially our daughter. Unfortunately, our daughter had to miss a lot of birthday parties, school field trips, and even Disneyland because they fell on his weekend. Now that she is older, she doesn't want to miss all those weekend activities, and she has started negotiated visiting time with him directly.
In my blog, I have mentioned the difficulties of dealing with my abusive ex-husband and also my abusive father. Obviously my relationship with my father had a lot to do with my selecting my abusive ex-husband. My relationship with my dad was very unhealthy, and it was the only example of a relationship I had... Continue Reading →
I must admit there are times I absolute hate my ex-husband! Times when my daughter acts entitled and as if the rules just not apply to her. It has always been a challenge parenting with such an uncooperative ex-husband. I am fully aware that children will play both parents even if the parents are not... Continue Reading →
My personal journey in healing from the emotional abuse. No communication, distance and time helped us find closure and peace. Today, I am happy to say things have settled down in the past few years. It is my belief things have changed because we moved further away from my ex-husband. Normally a geographical change does... Continue Reading →
I haven't posted anything in a while. I guess because things are going pretty good and there is no crisis or drama going on. I really do not talk to my ex-husband at all, I have found it is better for my daughter if we do not talk. Any form of contact seemed to bring... Continue Reading →
Dealing with my abusive ex-husband sometimes makes me feel completely crazy. The stuff he does is quite simply not rational and that it affects our daughter is most frustrating. Now, this is really a simple situation that because dramatic and I allowed myself to be sucked into this drama-laced issue that I have no control... Continue Reading →
Hard to believe it was 9 years ago when I made the difficult decision to get divorced from my verbally abusive husband. Although there were so many things wrong with the relationships, it was a very difficult decision to make. My relationship with my ex-husband as very one-sided and I always felt drained with him.... Continue Reading →
The effects of verbal abuse can cause physical symptoms that can become emotional scars that can last a lifetime if they are not dealt with. It can be very difficult to figure out that you are in a verbally abusive relationship and even more difficult to prove in the court of law. That is not... Continue Reading →
Looking through those other journal entries made me hunt for one of my older journals. I found the one I was writing when I met my abusive ex-husband. In reading those words now I can hardly believe I could have ever felt positive things about him. As long as I can remember he has been... Continue Reading →
The myths Society paints about Domestic Abuse truly prevent awareness about emotional & psychological abuse and make it very difficult to spot. Society really paints a picture of Domestic Abuse involving physical abuse or violence. When I talked to a lawyer one time the first question they asked me was, "Has he ever hit you?"... Continue Reading →
I think one of the greatest issues I have had to overcome is healing from all the invisible wounds. The scars left from the verbal and emotional abuse seem like they often ran deep into my core. My first emotional abuser was not my ex-husband, he was my father. So this is where the... Continue Reading →
I truly think God must have a sense of humor. I am not completely rid of my abusive ex-husband or abusive ex-boss but it sure makes me feel fired up to write more about verbal and emotional abuse, because awareness is key. Verbal Abuse can happen in almost any type of relationship and anywhere; in... Continue Reading →
Let me start by saying this, if you are an abuse survivor, please do not keep your story private. So many people are in an abusive relationship and have not become aware it is abuse. Especially if it is a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship which can make it very difficult to become aware of it.... Continue Reading →
One of the biggest questions I have always asked is, "Am I crazy?" When I am dealing with my abusive ex-husband or my abusive father, at times they have both made me feel crazy. Whenever I allowed myself to lose my temper and react terribly to their behavior has been equally as frustrating. My personal... Continue Reading →
So this week I received a call from a former co-worker who was still working for my old boss. Well, she was until Monday when she made the decisions to quit. My response was, "OMG Congrats." She said, "I feel so free." I asked her what she was going to be doing. She said "Nothing!" ... Continue Reading →
In a previous post Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps, I discussed the situation with my father sending me abusive emails. Over the past 8 years I have become very experienced in not responding to my ex-husband's abusive emails. However, here was my father, doing the same thing and I was allowing myself to... Continue Reading →
Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
It took me more than 10 years to figure out I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with my ex-husband. The trouble is that society often paints a picture of abuse as being physical not verbal, emotional, economic or sexual. During my marriage I remember thinking, "If he ever hits me, I am leaving." However,... Continue Reading →
The song "Lessons Learned" by Carrie Underwood is a song that I can really identify every time I listen to it and really pay attention to the words of the song. Especially that you can't change the past, cause it's gone. Realizing the pain I endured was not for no reason. There is a purpose... Continue Reading →
