Verbal Abuse Recovery
So it is strange because I am posting this in order but it will appear backwards to anyone reading this. Okay so I met him and thought he was pretty special. The real problem was that I did not think I was special. Things seemed okay at first, I thought. (personal low self esteem issue)... Continue Reading →
I thought I would jump back into the past a little and tell you how I met this man who I am now divorced from. I guess to tell you that story I might have to go back a little further. I was very attractive when I was younger but the problem was I never... Continue Reading →
No, this isn't something off Jerry Springer, but it is my life at times. I realized I am in the middle of some drama again and so I felt it was time to take some action. So I started reading 'Joint Custody With a Jerk' which I had read a few years ago. In the... Continue Reading →
Fear TriggerSo I am at work today doing my job when I get this call from my daughter's pediatrician. She doesn't usually call me out of the blue like that. So she informs me that my ex-husband called requesting the documents for the ADD from her. Since in over eight years she had never heard... Continue Reading →
There is a constant struggle to forget the past because I do not not want to remember the bad times. Memory Triggers I still have to deal with my ex-husband and that seems to trigger memories, especially with his constant need to control situations. Right now there is some weird stuff that is occurring that is triggering those old feelings. There are not very many good times to remember and believe me I have tried to find some to cling on to. In truth right now, he is just a tiny blip on the radar, other than his occasional interference he really isn't a part of my life anymore. I can focus on today and be so grateful to not be there and the strength that gained in return. I often feel if I could make it through all that there is truly nothing I can't endure today. Although I can't remember very many good things about him I go through all that hell over again if only to have my daughter here today.
Feeling a bit frustrated with the ongoing manipulation from my abusive ex. It's astonishing how he skillfully presents an image that deceives people into thinking he's a caring individual – hence the inspiration for creating this website. The current issue revolves around my daughter's school. Last year, my ex-husband's live-in girlfriend, who caused quite a... Continue Reading →
I am going to start with today and jump around because I would like to create a balance of positive with the negative effects of verbal abuse.
At this time my greatest challenge is trying to keep my daughter out of being in the middle. My ex constantly is asking her questions about my husband and I. It took me the longest time to figure out what was going on with my daughter. He was very manipulative and would say things... without really saying things. For instance, he wouldn't say I was a bad mom, he would say "Your mom is going to get mad at you" or "You are going to get in trouble with your mom." He wasn't asking her if she wanted to come live with him, he would say "Wouldn't it be great if you got to live with me all the time."
