You may find this shocking to believe that I once use to question if my ex-husband was poisoning me. I actually thought it was pretty crazy to think such a thing. I certainly did not think a normal person would even consider such a thing. I cannot tell you how many doctor's I visited during those years... Continue Reading →
Abusive Experiences – Journal Email Entries 2006
Journal Email Entries - 12/3/2006 Our daughter came home from her dad's house then she and I went to Walmart to buy her a desk. When we got home I told her to take a bath. She was crying and calling for me. She said her vagina hurt. I asked her what it felt like. ... Continue Reading →
Abuse and Co-Parenting – Rising Above the Games
Abuse and Co-Parenting - Using Our Daughter as the Pawn for Abusive Games My abusive ex-husband is still playing games and is using our daughter as his pawn. It is so unfair and I know any attempt I make to reason with him will only make things worse, not better. In fact, if I let... Continue Reading →
Abusive Experience – Journal Entries 2
The following entry was written after I had left the abusive alcoholic and drove to my mother's house in another state. Leaving him was really scary and he wanted me to feel that way. In the middle of December I had contacted an attorney, filed for divorce and then packed up my daughter and myself... Continue Reading →
Abusive Experience – Journal Entries 1
I thought about including my actual journal entries that I had written while still married to the abuser. When I was in the middle I did not truly understand what I was going through. Although at that time my eyes were beginning to open to what the real problem was. I hope this helps anyone... Continue Reading →
Tactics of Abusive Men with Children
Putting Our Daughter in the Middle Okay, so the manipulation tactics have continued no matter what the circumstances are. When we first got divorced he would attempt to contact me and swear he had changed his ways. He would make sure to run into my friends so he could attempt to earn allies and make... Continue Reading →
Abusive Bosses in a Down Economy
It seems we are in a time where some abusive bosses can take advantage of the down economy to justify their abusive behaviors. There are less jobs available right now which could make an employee endure a situation they might not otherwise tolerate. Accepting unacceptable behavior is more likely when your personal finances are at... Continue Reading →
Tips to Responding to Abusive Emails
Tips to Responding to Abusive Emails: The nice thing about emails is you have a record on file with dates. You do not have to respond to the abusive email right away. It is easier to stay unemotional via email than it is over the phone or in person. My abusive ex-husband use to bait... Continue Reading →
Did I Marry An Alcoholic
Signs there is a Marriage Problems There were so many things about my ex-husband I should have caught while we were dating. The saying "Love is Blind," I think I loved him in my dysfunctional way. I was truly willing to overlook things that a normal person would not have. You know something is wrong... Continue Reading →
Working with an Emotionally Abusive Boss
Okay, so this post follows my Abusive Bosses Create Unhealthy Workplace where I described a more volatile abusive boss. My second boss was a bit nicer on the surface but highly controlling and a bit more manipulative. Most of my co-worker's would describe my abusive bosses behavior as a 'Napoleon Complex' or even 'Little Man's... Continue Reading →
Abusive Bosses Create Unhealthy Workplace
Obviously I have experience with an abusive spouse who certainly had control through our finances. It was very difficult to leave that relationship because he was the breadwinner and I was a stay at home mom. However when I finally was so sick of being abused I finally was ready to take the leap into... Continue Reading →
Abusive Emails – How to Respond
I wanted to post these emails because as ridiculous and abusive as they are you may be dealing with something similar. Okay, short recap to perhaps explain the context of these emails. Our daughter, at the age of five, was complaining that her vagina hurt on more than one occasion after coming back from visiting... Continue Reading →
Manipulation of the Children – Abusive Fathers
Manipulating our Daughter I think I am getting better at not reacting so quickly. It seems crazy to me that we have been divorced for over 7 years and he still carries on like he does. Throughout the entire school year he seemed to be rather quiet. We found a lot of peace in that.... Continue Reading →
Abusive People Are Everywhere – Signs of Abuse
Now that I know what characteristics are in abusive people it is amazing how easy they are to spot. Sometimes it is almost disturbing how similar they behave. As Lundy Bandcroft mentioned in his book, "It is almost like they graduated from the same school of abuse." We have a house that really couldn't sell... Continue Reading →
I would rather be Healthy than Normal – Abuse Recovery
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
Abuse Warning Signs – Something is Wrong
There are sometimes warning signs that tell you something is wrong, but you are unable to do anything about it. There are also gut instincts that also tell you something is not right and you are unable to find any logical explanation. There were a lot of strange things going on about 4 years ago with... Continue Reading →
Signs of Domestic Abuse
What are the Odds? According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center, 25% of women will have experienced domestic abuse in their lifetime. Keeping Secrets That is very disturbing fact, but it is one that cannot be ignored. In a way by my posting this anonymously I feel like I am keeping the secret rather than... Continue Reading →
Abusive Men – Power and Control
Dealing with a Controlling Ex It is so difficult at times to not feel stressed when situations arise where I have to deal with my abusive ex-husband. When you have to co-parent a child with an abusive man you do have to deal with them to some extent while you raise the child. If fact... Continue Reading →
Abusive Men – Why Does He Do That?
Okay so I have been reading a very captivating book called 'Why Does He Do That' written by Lundy Bancroft. It is not the most current book, but I will say it is extremely relevant. This book is very well written as it gets inside the minds of these abusive men. At many times throughout... Continue Reading →
Abusive Ex-Husband Give Our 12 Year Old Some Alcohol
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →
Getting Over the Scars of Emotional Abuse
It is rather amazing how long it takes to deal with the emotional scars of a verbally abusive relationship. I am married to a really great man now and it can really affect our relationship today. There are times when a situation will trigger a memory and it sort of brings me back to the... Continue Reading →
Is This Abusive 