I think one of the greatest issues I have had to overcome is healing from all the invisible wounds. The scars left from the verbal and emotional abuse seem like they often ran deep into my core. My first emotional abuser was not my ex-husband, he was my father. So this is where the... Continue Reading →
Verbal Abuse Can Impact Any Relationship
I truly think God must have a sense of humor. I am not completely rid of my abusive ex-husband or abusive ex-boss but it sure makes me feel fired up to write more about verbal and emotional abuse, because awareness is key. Verbal Abuse can happen in almost any type of relationship and anywhere; in... Continue Reading →
Abuse Survivors – Please Share Your Story
Let me start by saying this, if you are an abuse survivor, please do not keep your story private. So many people are in an abusive relationship and have not become aware it is abuse. Especially if it is a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship which can make it very difficult to become aware of it.... Continue Reading →
Reactive Abuse – Abusive Crazy Making Behavior
One of the biggest questions I have always asked is, "Am I crazy?" When I am dealing with my abusive ex-husband or my abusive father, at times they have both made me feel crazy. Whenever I allowed myself to lose my temper and react terribly to their behavior has been equally as frustrating. My personal... Continue Reading →
Abusive Boss and the Unhealthy Workplace
So this week I received a call from a former co-worker who was still working for my old boss. Well, she was until Monday when she made the decisions to quit. My response was, "OMG Congrats." She said, "I feel so free." I asked her what she was going to be doing. She said "Nothing!" ... Continue Reading →
Tips for Dealing with Abusive Emails
In a previous post Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps, I discussed the situation with my father sending me abusive emails. Over the past 8 years I have become very experienced in not responding to my ex-husband's abusive emails. However, here was my father, doing the same thing and I was allowing myself to... Continue Reading →
Daughter Secretly Texting Abusive Ex-Husband
Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
12 Signs Your’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
It took me more than 10 years to figure out I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with my ex-husband. The trouble is that society often paints a picture of abuse as being physical not verbal, emotional, economic or sexual. During my marriage I remember thinking, "If he ever hits me, I am leaving." However,... Continue Reading →
Lessons Learned – Abuse Recovery
The song "Lessons Learned" by Carrie Underwood is a song that I can really identify every time I listen to it and really pay attention to the words of the song. Especially that you can't change the past, cause it's gone. Realizing the pain I endured was not for no reason. There is a purpose... Continue Reading →
Abusive Men and the Second Wife
There are many times I wonder if my abusive ex-husband is nicer to his new wife than he was to me. My Abusive Ex-Husband's Wife My ex-husband's wife tells my daughter I am crazy. No doubt these are things my ex-husband as told her about me that she is repeating. I am unable to get... Continue Reading →
Abusive Relationship – Warning Signs
One of my biggest concerns is my daughter will grow up and marry an abuser herself. All I can really do is teach her the facts and perhaps inform her of the warning signs. After all there were early warning signs in our relationship, when we were dating, which I missed or chose to ignore. ... Continue Reading →
Abusive Experience – Journal Entries 3
You can read the first posts I made from March & April 2003 on this page Abusive Experience - Journal Entries 1. I had many sporadic entries throughout the last few years of our marriage. I think I was always worried he would read the journal entries. These journal entries were made after I had figured out he had a problem... Continue Reading →
Family History of Abuse
Well, many things have transpired recently with my father. It turns out my father was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder many years ago. In previous posts, Abusive Email Traps, I had listed some of the bizarre interactions I had with my father and how much they reminded me of my abusive ex-husband's behavior. When I was... Continue Reading →
Abusive Email Traps – Abusive Men
So I am having problems with my father again after I made the decision to call him and he blasted me. You can read one of the first abusive emails from my father. Then good God, okay so he called me again and I pick up the phone. What is wrong with me? Now... Continue Reading →
Accepting Unacceptable Behavior
Okay, so after all the problems I had with my father I decided to give him a call this morning. In this past post, Abusive and Controlling Email Trap, I explained how my father blew up at me because he believed I was writing a divorce column and advising women to get divorced. Well as... Continue Reading →
Tolerating the Abuse vs Fear of the Unknown
For anyone reading my posts, I apologize if it seems like I am always jumping around. I just write my posts depending on where my memories lead me. One of the things I thought about the other day is how long I stayed with my abusive ex-husband because of fear. Fear really kept me paralyzed... Continue Reading →
Domestic Abuse and PTSD
I had a conversation with a family member the other day that was very angry about all the talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with military individuals. He referred to it as a, "Post Traumatic Stupid Disorder." I felt rather offended by his statement because his blanket statement could also have included me. I... Continue Reading →
Breaking the Addiction to Emotional Abuse
During my abuse recovery, I have questioned if I was possibly addicted to the emotional and physiological abuse that I endured daily for so many years. There are times when I question if I will ever truly be over the abuse. There are always things that triggers my memory of my past life. They do... Continue Reading →
Surviving Domestic Abuse during the Holidays
Looking back now, I cannot remember a single Holiday that passed by without excessive arguments with my ex-husband. I use to think he was purposely trying to make the holiday unpleasant for us. I remember trying to create the holiday mood by playing Bing Crosby Christmas, decorating the tree, hanging the stockings and such. What I most... Continue Reading →
Abusive Bosses in the Workplace
One thing to keep in mind is the Abusive Boss does not stop being abusive after you are no longer available to him. They continue to abuse other people around them. Most abusers seem to be pretty careful to not do anything that will get them caught. They seem to be careful to avoid any... Continue Reading →
Dreaming About Abusive Ex-Boss
Okay, so last night my dream included my manipulative abusive Ex-boss. It is very irritating to end relationships with people only to have them visit you in your dreams. In my dream I remember being upset and my boss was there. Also there was some other guy playing football (I don't watch football?) and was... Continue Reading →
Is This Abusive 