So this week I received a call from a former co-worker who was still working for my old boss. Well, she was until Monday when she made the decisions to quit. My response was, “OMG Congrats.” She said, “I feel so free.” I asked her what she was going to be doing. She said “Nothing!” She said she had just had enough and just quit.
She said it was so bad that she would wake up in the mornings with her neck & shoulders so tense it would make her hands hurt. It is awful to be in a work situation that takes such a toll on your physical well being. I found myself feeling some sort of excitement that she quit. After thinking about it for a while I realize the strongest feeling I felt was ‘validation’. Now there has been 2 others that just flat out quit and one that you couldn’t have paid her enough to stay. The common denominator in this job was our abusive boss. The biggest complaint for all of us about our job was specifically our boss. According to a Huffington Post Abusive Boss article, over 80% of employees leave their jobs because of their boss.
It really is a shame that there are so many unhealthy work environments in so many companies these days. This creates a very unhealthy situation for the employee and there is almost nothing that you can do to stop it. In my work situations both bosses were making the company money and that meant more to the company than a healthy work environment. In fact, the first company made that very clear about my boss making the company at lot of money and they were going to pick him over me.
Plus other employees often need their job and would not be willing to stand united against the boss. The employees just quit one-by-one over time. One quit over a year ago, another a year ago, I quit 8 months ago and another this week. Now they have a bunch of new employees that haven’t hit the point of sick and tired quite yet. Three out of four of us quit without a new job lined up. Things typically have to be pretty bad for you to choose to do that. My choosing to quit was certainly going to impact my family and I thought long and hard before making the decisions to resign.
Things to watch out for in a Company:
- Are they chasing the almighty dollar?
- Do they have a revolving door of employees?
- Is your boss the only person you can report to?
It probably wouldn’t take long for the abusive boss to figure out they are not going to get fired and without consequences they have no reason to change their behavior. Knowing they won’t get fired could even make the situation even more difficult to endure too. This knowledge would give an abusive boss quite a rush of power to be able to abuse his/her employees without any risk of losing their job.
A situation with an abusive boss would have to be done through emotional, mental or financial abuse tactics. I am sure you are going to find a few sexual abuse situations but at least there are laws that make it harder for someone to get away with that. However, how could you prove emotional abusive from a boss any easier than you can from a romantic partner? There are no visible wounds to prove what is happening.
Also, I would think it is much easier for an abusive boss to abuse their employees in today’s economy. With so many people looking for jobs or coming out of college it makes it easier for the company to pay less or the worker to accept less than what they are worth. Plus in salary positions where they are underpaid and overworked it just makes it even worse.
It is just as easy to feel trapped when your financial well-being is a stake, most people can’t just up and quit. I spent a year trying to decide how I was going to quit and trying to get another job. I had some really decent interviews but they were always out of state and wanted me to move there. That was extremely frustrating at times.
A companies health starts from the top down and if the company is more interested in earning money than creating a healthy workplace then that is a real shame. There are many companies that recognize it is very expensive to hire & train new people. These types of companies do their best to create a healthy work environment for their employees. Unfortunately, I do not think there is as many healthy companies as unhealthy ones. Of course, this is just speculation on my part, but finding a healthy company to work for seems easier said than done.