It took me more than 10 years to figure out I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with my ex-husband. The trouble is that society often paints a picture of abuse as being physical not verbal, emotional, economic or sexual. During my marriage I remember thinking, “If he ever hits me, I am leaving.” However, he never did hit me and at that point I was basically giving permission for him to do anything else.
- Feeling like you are on egg-shells and always worried about how your partner will react
- Makes you feel like less of a person than you know yourself to be
- You feel like you have no say when it comes to money, spending, purchase, etc…
- You spend too many hours trying to think up all possible scenarios in attempt to avoid a fight
- You feel certain rules are set only for you while he/she does whatever they choose
- Says/implies you are crazy or you are starting to believe you are the crazy one in the relationship
- Makes jokes that put you down, but then says you are too sensitive when you bring it up
- Expects you to act a specific way or dress a certain way (hair, nails, clothes, etc…)
- Will use children against you (threatening he/she will get custody and take the kids away if you were to leave, etc…)
- You feel things are your fault, he/she places fault on your head and claims/implies you made them angry
- Receives affection mainly after a fight, wants you to forgive and forget, makes claims it won’t happen again or “I will change”
- You are starting to second guess yourself or feel you can’t do anything right
Resources:
- 15 Signs You’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
- 10 Signs You May Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
he always threaten to take the kids away, compare me to his ex, calls me ugly and that no one will love me when he leaves me men will only use me and i am an imbecile
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