Verbal Abuse Recovery
The song "Lessons Learned" by Carrie Underwood is a song that I can really identify every time I listen to it and really pay attention to the words of the song. Especially that you can't change the past, cause it's gone. Realizing the pain I endured was not for no reason. There is a purpose... Continue Reading →
Well, many things have transpired recently with my father. It turns out my father was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder many years ago. In previous posts, Abusive Email Traps, I had listed some of the bizarre interactions I had with my father and how much they reminded me of my abusive ex-husband's behavior. When I was... Continue Reading →
So I am having problems with my father again after I made the decision to call him and he blasted me. You can read one of the first abusive emails from my father. Then good God, okay so he called me again and I pick up the phone. What is wrong with me? Now... Continue Reading →
Okay, so after all the problems I had with my father I decided to give him a call this morning. In this past post, Abusive and Controlling Email Trap, I explained how my father blew up at me because he believed I was writing a divorce column and advising women to get divorced. Well as... Continue Reading →
I had a conversation with a family member the other day that was very angry about all the talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with military individuals. He referred to it as a, "Post Traumatic Stupid Disorder." I felt rather offended by his statement because his blanket statement could also have included me. I... Continue Reading →
During my abuse recovery, I have questioned if I was possibly addicted to the emotional and physiological abuse that I endured daily for so many years. There are times when I question if I will ever truly be over the abuse. There are always things that triggers my memory of my past life. They do... Continue Reading →
My unresolved feelings from Past Memories & Conversations can continue to trigger hurt, anger, pain and fear in me. It is impossible to change the past that contributed to the emotional trauma. Steps have already been taken to remove myself from these verbal abusers. Now, steps need to be taken to change these negative memories... Continue Reading →
Unfortunately, my memories do not stop just because I decided to end the relationship with the abuser. In fact, sometimes these memories play on and on like a broken record in my head. My ex-husband was the worst relationship I ever had by far in my life. So oftentimes he plagues my mind. Of course,... Continue Reading →
My father and I recently had an argument about whether a women should or should not get divorced from a person who is abusive. The story is posted under Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. I had stated my personal belief that a women and her children (should she have any) should leave... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our global readers: Hi, I want to know how many times to your abuser need to abuse you to be classified as an abuser? I have been married 10 years, going through a divorce, but we have been together 15 years. The first 2 years in our relationship... Continue Reading →
One thing I have struggled with ongoing is PTSD & Panic/Anxiety attacks. These symptoms were really bad when I was still married to the abuser, but I didn't know I was having symptoms at the time. Even after I left the abuser and the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) got really bad it still took... Continue Reading →
One of my greatest fears is if my daughter picks someone like her dad who is abusive. My grandmother and mother picked husbands exhibiting abusive behavior very similar to my ex-husband. My parents divorced when I was about three years old. My father began using me to abuse my mother when I was four or five and... Continue Reading →
One thing I struggle with sometimes is getting over the resentment of my abusive ex-husband. Most of the time I do not hate him or give him much thought, unless he is messing with my daughter and it angers me all over again. Then I feel angry for all the hell he has put me... Continue Reading →
You may find this shocking to believe that I once use to question if my ex-husband was poisoning me. I actually thought it was pretty crazy to think such a thing. I certainly did not think a normal person would even consider such a thing. I cannot tell you how many doctors I visited during those years... Continue Reading →
Journal Email Entries - 12/3/2006 Our daughter came home from her dad's house then she and I went to Walmart to buy her a desk. When we got home I told her to take a bath. She was crying and calling for me. She said her vagina hurt. I asked her what it felt like. ... Continue Reading →
Manipulating Our Daughter I think I am getting better at not reacting so quickly. It seems crazy to me that we have been divorced for over 7 years and he still carries on like he does. Throughout the entire school year he seemed to be rather quiet. We found a lot of peace in that.... Continue Reading →
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
What are the Odds? According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center, 25% of women will have experienced domestic abuse in their lifetime. Keeping Secrets That is very disturbing fact, but it is one that cannot be ignored. In a way by my posting this anonymously I feel like I am keeping the secret rather than... Continue Reading →
It is rather amazing how long it takes to deal with the emotional scars of a verbally abusive relationship. I am married to a really great man now and it can really affect our relationship today. There are times when a situation will trigger a memory and it sort of brings me back to the... Continue Reading →
