Verbal Abuse Recovery
It is difficult to deal with a manipulative abusive ex-husband. Co-parenting with my abusive ex-husband has been more than a little difficult. In fact, it has been downright painful at times. Time to make smarter choices when dealing with my teenager. There are times I have felt hopeless, like this is some sort of game... Continue Reading →
Over the years I have certainly tried to solve many problems myself and oftentimes I forget to ask for God's help in these matters. I so often forget that He can perform miracles and I sometimes need to remember to get out of the way. Yesterday, I sent in a prayer request to our church.... Continue Reading →
Over the years I found it was helpful to write journal notes and email them to myself, that helped me keep the emails and my thoughts in chronological order. We really do not have any answers or definite explanations for these kind of complaints that occurred during a five year span. My gut instinct is... Continue Reading →
In the end of 2003, my divorce was final and I was living in my own house away from my abusive ex-husband. Unfortunately, because we had a child together my ex-husband was able to continue his abusive behaviors. Now he just uses our daughter as a pawn and I am not sure what his end game... Continue Reading →
This week, I feel like I am all over the place with my emotions. My mind is going through the past again as this situation with my daughter and ex-husband has made all those memories resurface. Although, it is a little better than before, I used to feel pretty hopeless at times. Not suicidal, but... Continue Reading →
This has been a rather challenging week with my daughter. I feel pretty resentful towards her father for his response or lack of response to this situation. They say that resentment is like swallowing poison, but hoping someone else will die. This week: Received some messages that mentioned 'bud and rillos', red flag Daughter posted... Continue Reading →
The most difficult time in my life was when I was living with my ex-husband. He controlled the finances, and I was constantly living on eggshells due to his unpredictable behavior. Today, I no longer have the constant headaches, stomach problems, and depression I experienced daily. Although co-parenting with an abusive ex-husband can be challenging.... Continue Reading →
My daughter has admitted that her father continues to say horrible things about me, and she just tunes him out. However, having seen her self-inflicted cuts on the side of her thigh/hip and it does not appear she has tuned it out. How much emotional scarring has this abusive relationship caused in my daughter after... Continue Reading →
So a lot has happened this week. All of this was crazy and unexpected to say the least. Starting on Tuesday, the school counselor called to inform me that she had received an anonymous tip that my daughter was cutting. My daughter assured the school counselor and me that she was not cutting. I even... Continue Reading →
Yesterday, I found out my daughter has been cutting herself. When I saw her, wounds I just covered my face with my hands and my eyes immediately began to tear up. As quickly as my tears began to flow, I somehow managed to stop and just talk to her. I just wanted to be supportive... Continue Reading →
This is a story of domestic abuse and how it often runs in families. The cycle of abuse is a tough one to break unless you begin to understand the facts about abuse. Domestic abuse has more than one face and can affect you in many ways, including unknowingly teaching your children, by example, to... Continue Reading →
Our daughter is now sixteen years old, and she now has a best friend and to my dismay a boyfriend. Due to the abusive nature of my relationship with my ex-husband I have really to talk to him a little as possible. I have found this is a healthier approach for everyone, especially our daughter. Unfortunately, our daughter had to miss a lot of birthday parties, school field trips, and even Disneyland because they fell on his weekend. Now that she is older, she doesn't want to miss all those weekend activities, and she has started negotiated visiting time with him directly.
In my blog, I have mentioned the difficulties of dealing with my abusive ex-husband and also my abusive father. Obviously my relationship with my father had a lot to do with my selecting my abusive ex-husband. My relationship with my dad was very unhealthy, and it was the only example of a relationship I had... Continue Reading →
I must admit there are times I absolute hate my ex-husband! Times when my daughter acts entitled and as if the rules just not apply to her. It has always been a challenge parenting with such an uncooperative ex-husband. I am fully aware that children will play both parents even if the parents are not... Continue Reading →
My personal journey in healing from the emotional abuse. No communication, distance and time helped us find closure and peace. Today, I am happy to say things have settled down in the past few years. It is my belief things have changed because we moved further away from my ex-husband. Normally a geographical change does... Continue Reading →
I haven't posted anything in a while. I guess because things are going pretty good and there is no crisis or drama going on. I really do not talk to my ex-husband at all, I have found it is better for my daughter if we do not talk. Any form of contact seemed to bring... Continue Reading →
Dealing with my abusive ex-husband sometimes makes me feel completely crazy. The stuff he does is quite simply not rational and that it affects our daughter is most frustrating. Now, this is really a simple situation that because dramatic and I allowed myself to be sucked into this drama-laced issue that I have no control... Continue Reading →
Hard to believe it was 9 years ago when I made the difficult decision to get divorced from my verbally abusive husband. Although there were so many things wrong with the relationships, it was a very difficult decision to make. My relationship with my ex-husband as very one-sided and I always felt drained with him.... Continue Reading →
The effects of verbal abuse can cause physical symptoms that can become emotional scars that can last a lifetime if they are not dealt with. It can be very difficult to figure out that you are in a verbally abusive relationship and even more difficult to prove in the court of law. That is not... Continue Reading →
Looking through those other journal entries made me hunt for one of my older journals. I found the one I was writing when I met my abusive ex-husband. In reading those words now I can hardly believe I could have ever felt positive things about him. As long as I can remember he has been... Continue Reading →
The myths Society paints about Domestic Abuse truly prevent awareness about emotional & psychological abuse and make it very difficult to spot. Society really paints a picture of Domestic Abuse involving physical abuse or violence. When I talked to a lawyer one time the first question they asked me was, "Has he ever hit you?"... Continue Reading →
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