Verbal Abuse Recovery
It has been a few weeks since the last time I wrote a post. Lately, I have had a difficult time putting my thoughts together. My emotions are quite overwhelming at this time, too much has happened in the past few months. I guess that is why it is so difficult to write my thoughts.... Continue Reading →
In the end of 2003, my divorce was final and I was living in my own house away from my abusive ex-husband. Unfortunately, because we had a child together my ex-husband was able to continue his abusive behaviors. Now he just uses our daughter as a pawn and I am not sure what his end game... Continue Reading →
Yesterday, I found out my daughter has been cutting herself. When I saw her, wounds I just covered my face with my hands and my eyes immediately began to tear up. As quickly as my tears began to flow, I somehow managed to stop and just talk to her. I just wanted to be supportive... Continue Reading →
This is a story of domestic abuse and how it often runs in families. The cycle of abuse is a tough one to break unless you begin to understand the facts about abuse. Domestic abuse has more than one face and can affect you in many ways, including unknowingly teaching your children, by example, to... Continue Reading →
In my blog, I have mentioned the difficulties of dealing with my abusive ex-husband and also my abusive father. Obviously my relationship with my father had a lot to do with my selecting my abusive ex-husband. My relationship with my dad was very unhealthy, and it was the only example of a relationship I had... Continue Reading →
I think one of the greatest issues I have had to overcome is healing from all the invisible wounds. The scars left from the verbal and emotional abuse seem like they often ran deep into my core. My first emotional abuser was not my ex-husband, he was my father. So this is where the... Continue Reading →
Let me start by saying this, if you are an abuse survivor, please do not keep your story private. So many people are in an abusive relationship and have not become aware it is abuse. Especially if it is a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship which can make it very difficult to become aware of it.... Continue Reading →
During my abuse recovery, I have questioned if I was possibly addicted to the emotional and physiological abuse that I endured daily for so many years. There are times when I question if I will ever truly be over the abuse. There are always things that triggers my memory of my past life. They do... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our global readers: Hi, I want to know how many times to your abuser need to abuse you to be classified as an abuser? I have been married 10 years, going through a divorce, but we have been together 15 years. The first 2 years in our relationship... Continue Reading →
I was a victim of domestic abuse 'but he never hit me'. I ran across this statement today and it impossible for me to count how many times I have said that very statement. When I was married I really was not aware my marriage was one of control, manipulation, power and domination. The household... Continue Reading →
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →
It is rather amazing how long it takes to deal with the emotional scars of a verbally abusive relationship. I am married to a really great man now and it can really affect our relationship today. There are times when a situation will trigger a memory and it sort of brings me back to the... Continue Reading →
One of the greatest challenges I have is trying to keep my daughter out of the middle of this unhealthy behavior. I was doing a better job with it before the school staff came into the mix. Allowing my daughter to view her father through her own eyes and not mine. I know she really has to develop... Continue Reading →
So I had a meeting with the principal of my daughter's school yesterday. We spoke our issues with the school and then the day kind of went from good to bad pretty quickly. In the late afternoon I was giving my daughter a spelling test and I am not sure what triggered her memory. So instead of having... Continue Reading →
So it is strange because I am posting this in order but it will appear backwards to anyone reading this. Okay so I met him and thought he was pretty special. The real problem was that I did not think I was special. Things seemed okay at first, I thought. (personal low self esteem issue)... Continue Reading →
I am going to start with today and jump around because I would like to create a balance of positive with the negative effects of verbal abuse.
At this time my greatest challenge is trying to keep my daughter out of being in the middle. My ex constantly is asking her questions about my husband and I. It took me the longest time to figure out what was going on with my daughter. He was very manipulative and would say things... without really saying things. For instance, he wouldn't say I was a bad mom, he would say "Your mom is going to get mad at you" or "You are going to get in trouble with your mom." He wasn't asking her if she wanted to come live with him, he would say "Wouldn't it be great if you got to live with me all the time."
Is This Abusive 