Verbal Abuse Recovery
This is a story from one of our readers: "We love charming men. When I first met RS, I thought I had found one of the most charming men I had ever met. He’s handsome and his initial personality melted me. He wanted to spend every single day with me, was very affectionate, brought me... Continue Reading →
Recently I have been binge watching The Handmaid's Tale. I must say this is probably not the best show to binge watch because it is tale of a very dark totalitarian society. Nearly every episode is dark, disturbing, and rather abusive. However, there are may parallels between the abuse of power displayed and what life... Continue Reading →
So, last month I received a $2,000 bill from my abusive ex-husbands wife. This bill was sent the day after my daughter had dental surgery and had 6 teeth pulled. They are supposed to notify me of any non-emergency surgeries before the event and not after the event. In email, she implies that their attorney was... Continue Reading →
My mother was visiting this week and things just weren't the same without my daughter. Normally, my daughter would be here and happily participating in all activities. This year, my mother and I had three short visits with her instead. My daughter has stated that she does not want to see my husband or his... Continue Reading →
The other day, I realized something really significant about this entire situation with my ex-husband and daughter. The time I spent with my ex-husband was really not very good. There are not many good memories to dwell on about him. In fact, most of the time things were pretty bad, sometimes okay, but never really... Continue Reading →
Several years ago, when my ex-husband was constantly harassing me and threatening to take our daughter away from me. I found myself walking through the doors of a local Domestic Abuse Counseling Center. Years earlier, I had started attending Alanon, because I was pretty convinced he had a drinking problem. Alanon helped me come to terms... Continue Reading →
I have begun writing a book because there must be a reason for this journey. Perhaps my book can help someone understand they are not alone and can help them validate their experience. Maybe a book will help someone avoid a few minutes or learn a few lessons quicker. This book will dig deeper into... Continue Reading →
This is a story of domestic abuse and how it often runs in families. The cycle of abuse is a tough one to break unless you begin to understand the facts about abuse. Domestic abuse has more than one face and can affect you in many ways, including unknowingly teaching your children, by example, to... Continue Reading →
For anyone reading my posts, I apologize if it seems like I am always jumping around. I just write my posts depending on where my memories lead me. One of the things I thought about the other day is how long I stayed with my abusive ex-husband because of fear. Fear really kept me paralyzed... Continue Reading →
There were many days when my ex-husband use to come home really late & after he had been out drinking. I would be sleeping in our master bedroom, with the door locked and he would continue to knock on the door until I would open it. He would want sex, I would tell him no,... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our readers: Hello, I'm a young 15 year old girl who has had a crazy life. Some really bad things have happened as in good. I've been abused in many ways. I've been raped since I was a little girl for a couple of years from 3 boys. I've been molested from... Continue Reading →
This is a story from one of our global readers: Hi, I want to know how many times to your abuser need to abuse you to be classified as an abuser? I have been married 10 years, going through a divorce, but we have been together 15 years. The first 2 years in our relationship... Continue Reading →
The following entry was written after I had left the abusive alcoholic and drove to my mother's house in another state. Leaving him was really scary and he wanted me to feel that way. In the middle of December I had contacted an attorney, filed for divorce and then packed up my daughter and myself... Continue Reading →
I thought about including my actual journal entries that I had written while still married to the abuser. When I was in the middle I did not truly understand what I was going through. Although at that time my eyes were beginning to open to what the real problem was. I hope this helps anyone... Continue Reading →
I am going to start with today and jump around because I would like to create a balance of positive with the negative effects of verbal abuse.
At this time my greatest challenge is trying to keep my daughter out of being in the middle. My ex constantly is asking her questions about my husband and I. It took me the longest time to figure out what was going on with my daughter. He was very manipulative and would say things... without really saying things. For instance, he wouldn't say I was a bad mom, he would say "Your mom is going to get mad at you" or "You are going to get in trouble with your mom." He wasn't asking her if she wanted to come live with him, he would say "Wouldn't it be great if you got to live with me all the time."
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