The Games Narcissists and Abusers Play

So, last month I received a $2,000 bill from my abusive ex-husbands wife. This bill was sent the day after my daughter had dental surgery and had 6 teeth pulled. They are supposed to notify me of any non-emergency surgeries before the event and not after the event. In email, she implies that their attorney was... Continue Reading →

Children – Abusers Weapon of Choice

My mother was visiting this week and things just weren't the same without my daughter. Normally, my daughter would be here and happily participating in all activities. This year, my mother and I had three short visits with her instead. My daughter has stated that she does not want to see my husband or his... Continue Reading →

Verbal Abuse is Domestic Abuse

Several years ago, when my ex-husband was constantly harassing me and threatening to take our daughter away from me. I found myself walking through the doors of a local Domestic Abuse Counseling Center. Years earlier, I had started attending Alanon, because I was pretty convinced he had a drinking problem. Alanon helped me come to terms... Continue Reading →

Generational Effects of Abuse

This is a story of domestic abuse and how it often runs in families. The cycle of abuse is a tough one to break unless you begin to understand the facts about abuse.  Domestic abuse has more than one face and can affect you in many ways, including unknowingly teaching your children, by example, to... Continue Reading →

Verbal Abuse and the Internal Scars

I am going to start with today and jump around because I would like to create a balance of positive with the negative effects of verbal abuse. At this time my greatest challenge is trying to keep my daughter out of being in the middle.  My ex constantly is asking her questions about my husband and I.  It took me the longest time to figure out what was going on with my daughter.  He was very manipulative and would say things... without really saying things.  For instance, he wouldn't say I was a bad mom, he would say "Your mom is going to get mad at you" or "You are going to get in trouble with your mom."  He wasn't asking her if she wanted to come live with him, he would say "Wouldn't it be great if  you got to live with me all the time."

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