Verbal Abuse Recovery
Dealing with my abusive ex-husband sometimes makes me feel completely crazy. The stuff he does is quite simply not rational and that it affects our daughter is most frustrating. Now, this is really a simple situation that because dramatic and I allowed myself to be sucked into this drama-laced issue that I have no control... Continue Reading →
The myths Society paints about Domestic Abuse truly prevent awareness about emotional & psychological abuse and make it very difficult to spot. Society really paints a picture of Domestic Abuse involving physical abuse or violence. When I talked to a lawyer one time the first question they asked me was, "Has he ever hit you?"... Continue Reading →
I think one of the greatest issues I have had to overcome is healing from all the invisible wounds. The scars left from the verbal and emotional abuse seem like they often ran deep into my core. My first emotional abuser was not my ex-husband, he was my father. So this is where the... Continue Reading →
Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
There are many times I wonder if my abusive ex-husband is nicer to his new wife than he was to me. My Abusive Ex-Husband's Wife My ex-husband's wife tells my daughter I am crazy. No doubt these are things my ex-husband as told her about me that she is repeating. I am unable to get... Continue Reading →
Looking back now, I cannot remember a single Holiday that passed by without excessive arguments with my ex-husband. I use to think he was purposely trying to make the holiday unpleasant for us. I remember trying to create the holiday mood by playing Bing Crosby Christmas, decorating the tree, hanging the stockings and such. What I most... Continue Reading →
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
My father and I recently had an argument about whether a women should or should not get divorced from a person who is abusive. The story is posted under Abusive and Controlling Emails - Email Traps. I had stated my personal belief that a women and her children (should she have any) should leave... Continue Reading →
One of my greatest fears is if my daughter picks someone like her dad who is abusive. My grandmother and mother picked husbands exhibiting abusive behavior very similar to my ex-husband. My parents divorced when I was about three years old. My father began using me to abuse my mother when I was four or five and... Continue Reading →
When I first got divorced my abusive ex-husband spent so much time harassing me it was a miserable experience. Here I was trying to go with my life, raise my daughter, run my business and his constant harassment made that really hard to do. It did not help that I was always afraid of what... Continue Reading →
When I was first divorced from my abusive ex-husband I was extremely afraid of him. He made many threats and acted on only a few. In my situation my ex-husband is really nothing but a bully, all bark and no bite. Warning: I will say if you are receiving threats please do not dismiss them as... Continue Reading →
My daughter is 13 right now and it amazes me of how many years my abusive ex-husband has been trying to use her as a pawn, weapon or any way to hurt me. I came across an email I sent to my attorney 7 years ago regarding a bizarre reaction my 6 year old had... Continue Reading →
We were driving back from an appointment today and my daughter mentioned her dad did not like it when her step-dad (let's call him Chris) called her names (like Turd, Buttlips). I asked her, "How would he know if Chris said something like that?" She said she did not know. I asked, "Does Chris ever... Continue Reading →
Abuse and Co-Parenting - Using Our Daughter as the Pawn for Abusive Games My abusive ex-husband is still playing games and is using our daughter as his pawn. It is so unfair and I know any attempt I make to reason with him will only make things worse, not better. In fact, if I let... Continue Reading →
Putting Our Daughter in the Middle Okay, so the manipulation tactics have continued no matter what the circumstances are. When we first got divorced he would attempt to contact me and swear he had changed his ways. He would make sure to run into my friends so he could attempt to earn allies and make... Continue Reading →
Manipulating our Daughter I think I am getting better at not reacting so quickly. It seems crazy to me that we have been divorced for over 7 years and he still carries on like he does. Throughout the entire school year he seemed to be rather quiet. We found a lot of peace in that.... Continue Reading →
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
Dealing with a Controlling Ex It is so difficult at times to not feel stressed when situations arise where I have to deal with my abusive ex-husband. When you have to co-parent a child with an abusive man you do have to deal with them to some extent while you raise the child. If fact... Continue Reading →
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →
I have not allowed all this insanity to control my weekend or prevent me from enjoying it. My daughter will be home in a while and we will have the have the discussion about her not coming by to pick things up when we are not home. I sort of feel if I were dealing... Continue Reading →
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