After three years hoping and praying our daughter would see the truth in her abusive father, my dream came true. It is bittersweet because this is not the type of relationship a person would ever wish for their daughter. It would have been great if she had two parents working together only interested in her... Continue Reading →
Last week, my daughter told me she wants to come by on Sunday to see me for Mother's Day, but she is not allowed to drive his car to the city where I live again. It is extremely frustrating to me that we are still having these types of conversations when our daughter is 20 years old. This is crazy controlling and she is still not ready or able to challenge him yet.
On so many levels, it seems like my ex is still controlling me. It shouldn't feel this way, but it does. Our daughter is nearly twenty years old and still cannot come visit me. In order for me to see my daughter, I always have to go see her. Her father has a rule that she cannot come to the city where I live.
In this post, I am going to discuss what Parental Alienation is and how it affected my family. In my personal experience, there have been three separate situations where it exists and in all three stories men did it. Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted... Continue Reading →
Hard to believe it was 9 years ago when I made the difficult decision to get divorced from my verbally abusive husband. Although there were so many things wrong with the relationships, it was a very difficult decision to make. My relationship with my ex-husband as very one-sided and I always felt drained with him.... Continue Reading →
Well, many things have transpired recently with my father. It turns out my father was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder many years ago. In previous posts, Abusive Email Traps, I had listed some of the bizarre interactions I had with my father and how much they reminded me of my abusive ex-husband's behavior. When I was... Continue Reading →
So I am having problems with my father again after I made the decision to call him and he blasted me. You can read one of the first abusive emails from my father. Then good God, okay so he called me again and I pick up the phone. What is wrong with me? Now... Continue Reading →
Okay, so after all the problems I had with my father I decided to give him a call this morning. In this past post, Abusive and Controlling Email Trap, I explained how my father blew up at me because he believed I was writing a divorce column and advising women to get divorced. Well as... Continue Reading →
First, let me begin by saying that I am not discounting physical abuse at all. If someone is physically abusive it highly unlikely they are not emotionally & verbally abusive too. If someone feels it is their right to physically abuse their partner or child they must be manipulative, controlling and use some methods of... Continue Reading →
Manipulating our Daughter I think I am getting better at not reacting so quickly. It seems crazy to me that we have been divorced for over 7 years and he still carries on like he does. Throughout the entire school year he seemed to be rather quiet. We found a lot of peace in that.... Continue Reading →
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
Okay so I have been reading a very captivating book called 'Why Does He Do That' written by Lundy Bancroft. It is not the most current book, but I will say it is extremely relevant. This book is very well written as it gets inside the minds of these abusive men. At many times throughout... Continue Reading →
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →