Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
Abusive Ex-Husband Texting Our Daughter
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
Using the Divorce Decree as Tool vs a Weapon
When I first got divorced my abusive ex-husband spent so much time harassing me it was a miserable experience. Here I was trying to go with my life, raise my daughter, run my business and his constant harassment made that really hard to do. It did not help that I was always afraid of what... Continue Reading →
Abuse and Co-Parenting – Rising Above the Games
Abuse and Co-Parenting - Using Our Daughter as the Pawn for Abusive Games My abusive ex-husband is still playing games and is using our daughter as his pawn. It is so unfair and I know any attempt I make to reason with him will only make things worse, not better. In fact, if I let... Continue Reading →
Tactics of Abusive Men with Children
Putting Our Daughter in the Middle Okay, so the manipulation tactics have continued no matter what the circumstances are. When we first got divorced he would attempt to contact me and swear he had changed his ways. He would make sure to run into my friends so he could attempt to earn allies and make... Continue Reading →
Manipulation of the Children – Abusive Fathers
Manipulating our Daughter I think I am getting better at not reacting so quickly. It seems crazy to me that we have been divorced for over 7 years and he still carries on like he does. Throughout the entire school year he seemed to be rather quiet. We found a lot of peace in that.... Continue Reading →
I would rather be Healthy than Normal – Abuse Recovery
Communication with Abusers One thing I have learned over the years is any amount of communication I have with my abusive ex-husband just keeps him going. I also learned that everything I say to him comes back to bite our daughter. We have been divorced for 7 years now and you would truly think my... Continue Reading →
Abusive Men – Power and Control
Dealing with a Controlling Ex It is so difficult at times to not feel stressed when situations arise where I have to deal with my abusive ex-husband. When you have to co-parent a child with an abusive man you do have to deal with them to some extent while you raise the child. If fact... Continue Reading →
Abusive Ex-Husband Give Our 12 Year Old Some Alcohol
I have learned to be strong every year and I can truly thank my abusive ex-husband for that gift. It is quite frustrating often the inappropriate and abusive parenting things he does and he somehow manages to stay just inside the boundaries of the law so that nothing can be done. This weekend I found... Continue Reading →
Abusive People are Not Worth the Stress
I tell you I felt some stress yesterday and a little bit today. I received the letter of complaint to the school from the attorney and it is amazing. He actually describes exactly my complaint that the school should follow their policies first and foremost. He also went on to say that the school has... Continue Reading →
No Contact With Abuser Helps
I have not allowed all this insanity to control my weekend or prevent me from enjoying it. My daughter will be home in a while and we will have the have the discussion about her not coming by to pick things up when we are not home. I sort of feel if I were dealing... Continue Reading →