Verbal Abuse Recovery
Here’s a strong excerpt that fits the article well: What happens when a place that should remain neutral becomes part of a high-conflict family dynamic? Looking back at events I documented while my daughter was in elementary school, I explore blurred boundaries, school involvement, manipulation, triangulation, and what I understand differently now about protecting children from adult conflict.
What happens when a place that should remain neutral becomes part of a high-conflict family dynamic? In this episode, I look back at my daughter’s school experience, blurred boundaries, triangulation, school accountability, and what I understand differently now about protecting children from adult conflict.
Is This Abusive? Explores emotional abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, coercive control, relationship warning signs, and recovery. Through personal experience, reflection, and practical insight, the podcast helps listeners recognize unhealthy patterns, trust their own perceptions, and better understand what may be happening in difficult relationships.
Gaslighting can slowly make you question your memory, instincts, and even your own sense of reality. In this personal reflection, I look at how repeated denial, blame, and distorted versions of events affected my ability to trust myself, and how documenting what happened became part of finding my way back to my own voice.
This episode explores how abuse was understood, or left unnamed, across three generations of women. From a grandmother with few options, to a generation taught that abuse meant bruises, to the growing language we now have for verbal abuse, coercive control, and emotional harm, this conversation looks at what women were taught to endure and why naming these patterns matters.
This episode explores the subtle warning signs that can make an unhealthy or abusive relationship difficult to recognize. From walking on eggshells and questioning your own perspective to control, isolation, blame, and intimidation, the focus is on patterns that may seem small individually but become more concerning when they happen repeatedly over time.
Abuse does not always begin with something obvious. Subtle patterns of control, criticism, intimidation, isolation, and manipulation can build slowly over time. This article looks at warning signs that may be easy to dismiss individually, but deserve attention when several begin appearing together.
When I look back through the women in my family, one thing becomes very clear to me: abuse did not suddenly appear in my generation. What changed was our ability to recognize it, name it, talk about it, and eventually do something about it. My grandmother lived in a time when a woman could have... Continue Reading →
If you read my previous post, you know that my mother was recently diagnosed with cancer. I traveled to be with her, and while helping her sort through her home and prepare for what comes next, I found myself returning to this old blog. Maybe there is something about sorting through a lifetime of belongings... Continue Reading →
So, my father passed away recently, and I am really struggling with how I feel about it. I was able to share some special moments with him just before his death. My father and I had been somewhat estranged for many years. He was very verbally abusive to me throughout my childhood, and I wound... Continue Reading →
In this post, I am going to discuss what Parental Alienation is and how it affected my family. In my personal experience, there have been three separate situations where it exists and in all three stories men did it. Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted... Continue Reading →
Recently I have been binge watching The Handmaid's Tale. I must say this is probably not the best show to binge watch because it is tale of a very dark totalitarian society. Nearly every episode is dark, disturbing, and rather abusive. However, there are may parallels between the abuse of power displayed and what life... Continue Reading →
Here is a story about verbal abuse from one of our readers: Domestic Violence is a slow dehumanizing experience. I couldn't even see it was happening. I wondered what was wrong with me. I thought it was abuse. I tried to get him to believe it was abuse. However, I should have just trusted my... Continue Reading →
Over the years, I have always been able to identify with lyrics of songs. There are so many songs written about being hurt by abusive people, narcissists, and emotional manipulators. A few songs like Jar of Hearts by Christina Perri, Because Of You by Kelly Clarkson, Fighter by Christina Aguilera, and now this song Praying by... Continue Reading →
Lately, I have been listening to the P!nk Radio station and the song Titanium comes on every so often. Every time I have heard this song it touches me deep inside. Today, after hearing this song once again, I realize my thoughts need to change to one of strength again. The reason my ex-husband does not... Continue Reading →
So, last month I received a $2,000 bill from my abusive ex-husbands wife. This bill was sent the day after my daughter had dental surgery and had 6 teeth pulled. They are supposed to notify me of any non-emergency surgeries before the event and not after the event. In email, she implies that their attorney was... Continue Reading →
So, this entire situation has been stressful for my body. Stress takes a serious toll on my body and I have physical symptoms that are impossible to ignore. I have done a better job managing them over the years, but getting over years of verbal abuse has been a challenge. Some days are better than... Continue Reading →
Here is a story about verbal abuse from one of our readers: I read this blog and it was like putting a mirror in front of me. I had never seen so clearly before what my ex was like... I split up with my ex about 2 1/2 years ago during the death of my... Continue Reading →
Several years ago, when my ex-husband was constantly harassing me and threatening to take our daughter away from me. I found myself walking through the doors of a local Domestic Abuse Counseling Center. Years earlier, I had started attending Alanon, because I was pretty convinced he had a drinking problem. Alanon helped me come to terms... Continue Reading →
When I read the story about Megan Short's murder, it really struck home for me. This relationship ended tragically with her husband Mark Short shooting his wife, their three kids, their dog, and then shot himself. It was reported that this relationship was a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. Physician violence has not been reported in... Continue Reading →
My daughter has admitted that her father continues to say horrible things about me, and she just tunes him out. However, having seen her self-inflicted cuts on the side of her thigh/hip and it does not appear she has tuned it out. How much emotional scarring has this abusive relationship caused in my daughter after... Continue Reading →
