Verbal Abuse Recovery
There are several reasons why you should consider going No Contact with Abusers, Narcissists, and Emotional Manipulators. There may be reasons why you cannot block the person, but you can take steps to ensure you are not surprised by their emails. Emotional Health You deserve to protect your emotional health from abuser, narcissist, and/or emotional... Continue Reading →
There did seem to be a downhill battle with my daughter after divorcing a narcissist/abusive ex. You can really see the spiral downhill and how we were unable to turn it around in this story. Our daughter has become extremely irrational and unreasonable to converse with. Ugh! I did exactly what I said I shouldn’t... Continue Reading →
One of the biggest lessons I learned throughout this entire experience is it is impossible to co-parent with a narcissist or abusive person. Whether you Ex is a woman or man, if they are a narcissist, there is no such thing as cooperation. It frustrates me that he gets as much attention as he does.... Continue Reading →
So, last month I received a $2,000 bill from my abusive ex-husbands wife. This bill was sent the day after my daughter had dental surgery and had 6 teeth pulled. They are supposed to notify me of any non-emergency surgeries before the event and not after the event. In email, she implies that their attorney was... Continue Reading →
My mother was visiting this week and things just weren't the same without my daughter. Normally, my daughter would be here and happily participating in all activities. This year, my mother and I had three short visits with her instead. My daughter has stated that she does not want to see my husband or his... Continue Reading →
The other day, I realized something really significant about this entire situation with my ex-husband and daughter. The time I spent with my ex-husband was really not very good. There are not many good memories to dwell on about him. In fact, most of the time things were pretty bad, sometimes okay, but never really... Continue Reading →
It has been two months since my last blog entry. Over the past few months I have gone through several stages of grief. Stages of Grief It began with fear and trying to decide what to do about the situation. Then it evolved into overwhelming sadness with frequent bouts of crying. Sometimes I felt extremely... Continue Reading →
In my previous post Power Over and the Abuser, I wrote about trying to pick my daughter up for the weekend visitation. I had planned on taking her for coffee or sushi and then taking her back home. However, nobody answered the door when I rang the doorbell. On Friday, I had decided to send... Continue Reading →
Okay, right now there is a situation that is outside my control. Although I have no desire to be in control, although with that being said... I really don't like the feeling of being out of control either. This is clearly a Power Over situation for my ex-husband and he has all the control and I... Continue Reading →
As you know, hindsight is 20/20 and after dealing with an abusive man for more than twenty years there are decisions I wish I could go back and change. Obviously, we are unable to go back and change anything that has happened in the past. Knowing what I know now, I realize some decisions would... Continue Reading →
It is difficult to deal with a manipulative abusive ex-husband. Co-parenting with my abusive ex-husband has been more than a little difficult. In fact, it has been downright painful at times. Time to make smarter choices when dealing with my teenager. There are times I have felt hopeless, like this is some sort of game... Continue Reading →
Over the years I found it was helpful to write journal notes and email them to myself, that helped me keep the emails and my thoughts in chronological order. We really do not have any answers or definite explanations for these kind of complaints that occurred during a five year span. My gut instinct is... Continue Reading →
In the end of 2003, my divorce was final and I was living in my own house away from my abusive ex-husband. Unfortunately, because we had a child together my ex-husband was able to continue his abusive behaviors. Now he just uses our daughter as a pawn and I am not sure what his end game... Continue Reading →
This week, I feel like I am all over the place with my emotions. My mind is going through the past again as this situation with my daughter and ex-husband has made all those memories resurface. Although, it is a little better than before, I used to feel pretty hopeless at times. Not suicidal, but... Continue Reading →
The most difficult time in my life was when I was living with my ex-husband. He controlled the finances, and I was constantly living on eggshells due to his unpredictable behavior. Today, I no longer have the constant headaches, stomach problems, and depression I experienced daily. Although co-parenting with an abusive ex-husband can be challenging.... Continue Reading →
Our daughter is now sixteen years old, and she now has a best friend and to my dismay a boyfriend. Due to the abusive nature of my relationship with my ex-husband I have really to talk to him a little as possible. I have found this is a healthier approach for everyone, especially our daughter. Unfortunately, our daughter had to miss a lot of birthday parties, school field trips, and even Disneyland because they fell on his weekend. Now that she is older, she doesn't want to miss all those weekend activities, and she has started negotiated visiting time with him directly.
I must admit there are times I absolute hate my ex-husband! Times when my daughter acts entitled and as if the rules just not apply to her. It has always been a challenge parenting with such an uncooperative ex-husband. I am fully aware that children will play both parents even if the parents are not... Continue Reading →
Dealing with my abusive ex-husband sometimes makes me feel completely crazy. The stuff he does is quite simply not rational and that it affects our daughter is most frustrating. Now, this is really a simple situation that because dramatic and I allowed myself to be sucked into this drama-laced issue that I have no control... Continue Reading →
Okay, so over the weekend we had an incident with our 13 year old daughter not coming home when she was suppose to. Basically she was going out with a friend, to the mall and was suppose to be home at 1pm. So, at 1:30pm I am trying to call and text her cell phone... Continue Reading →
Last year around Christmas my daughter went from zero text messages each month to over a 1,500 for about two months before we figured it out. The reason we figured it out was because she had a terrible attitude and we noticed she was texting more than normal. We decided to see who she was... Continue Reading →
When I first got divorced my abusive ex-husband spent so much time harassing me it was a miserable experience. Here I was trying to go with my life, raise my daughter, run my business and his constant harassment made that really hard to do. It did not help that I was always afraid of what... Continue Reading →
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