I am going to start with today and jump around because I would like to create a balance of positive with the negative effects of verbal abuse. At this time my greatest challenge is trying to keep my daughter out of being in the middle.  My ex constantly is asking her questions about my husband and I.  It took me the longest time to figure out what was going on with my daughter.  He was very manipulative and would say things... without really saying things.  For instance, he wouldn't say I was a bad mom, he would say "Your mom is going to get mad at you" or "You are going to get in trouble with your mom."  He wasn't asking her if she wanted to come live with him, he would say "Wouldn't it be great if  you got to live with me all the time."