One thing to keep in mind is the Abusive Boss does not stop being abusive after you are no longer available to him. They continue to abuse other people around them. Most abusers seem to be pretty careful to not do anything that will get them caught. They seem to be careful to avoid any lines that could impact them legally. If someone who is abusive has that much control then they know what they are doing. I am going to give these people some fake names so I don’t have to say her or him all the time.
I spoke to Susan, an old co-worker, the other day and she said it was still terrible to work there and they are all jealous I am gone. She said Janet, his personal assistant, who is only 25 years old now has a bleeding ulcer. Apparently Janet’s doctor scheduled a colonoscopy for her and Jack, my old abusive boss, was angry at her for having to take time off for this. When I was there I remember seeing Janet crying because Jack just tore her apart in a ‘performance review’ meeting. It seems like ‘performance review’ for an abusive boss is a fancy word for then to have a ‘reason’ to put you down.
Susan also said she wanted to report him but was afraid to speak up. She said she saw him do this to Mary last year, Dave last year, Donna last summer, Me and now to Janet this year. She was afraid if she reported him there would be retaliation. She said she didn’t have enough cushion to leave the job and was still trying to get another job.
Apparently they were in a meeting a few months ago and Jennifer asked Jack directly where I was. Apparently she made direct eye contact with Jack and he just looked down as if he didn’t see her and said nothing. So, Jennifer said, “Did I say something I wasn’t suppose to?” Andrea said everyone was really quite and the entire situation was really awkward. So Andrea said, “She left a few months ago and is happy and doing great.”
Anyway, I guess my thoughts are this. First of all it is really sad it takes other people coming forward to validate I was in a abusive situation and not imagining things. Second the Abuser did not change his spots and is not nice to everyone but me. There are many abusive men who use the workplace as an excuse to use their employees as a punching bag.